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Q: What can I do when my toddler hits another child, takes a toy, or throws things?

A: Toddlers need to learn limits in a warm, loving way, including that hitting or taking toys is not something that we do. There are many ways to help toddlers learn this without yelling or hitting or being harsh. Gently removing her from the situation and explaining what is appropriate is a first step, if she is old enough to understand. If not, try substitution and distraction. Sharing is something that children learn, and often by our example. For some children, removing the favorite toys before others come over can help.

When your child acts out in these ways, she may be trying to communicate to you that she needs a little more one-on-one attention. Try reducing your activities and spend some time alone reading, playing, or talking. You may be surprised how quickly this fulfills her needs and calms her down.

Q: How do I discipline a toddler?

A: For most situations, redirect a toddler to a new setting or a safe toy to distract him or her from dangerous or inappropriate activity. Time out in a place without toys and stimulation is also usually effective; leave a child in time-out one (1) minute for each year of age. Never put a child in a closet or in restraints of any kind. The point of time out is to be away from others until behavior is acceptable.

Q: How do I stop my toddler from biting?

A: At one time or another, your toddler might try biting. It is unclear why a toddler may bite, but it’s best if your toddler learns that it is something he or she must not do.

If your older toddler bites:

  • State clearly and simply: “No, please don’t bite. It hurts.”
  • If he bites while breastfeeding, remove your child immediately from the breast. Then try breastfeeding again. Just because your toddler bites does not mean you need to stop breastfeeding.
  • Avoid biting your toddler back. It will frighten and confuse your toddler and will not stop your toddler from biting.
  • Avoid laughing or taking biting lightly.


Q: How can I avoid or cut down on tantrums?

A:  Make sure your toddler has regular rest, physical activity, and meal and snack times. If you are out, take healthy snacks and water with you. Let your toddler know ahead of time what is going to happen and what you want your toddler to do. When going for shopping, tell your toddler what you have planned and how hw can help. Try not to say “no” to every request. Give your toddler control over little things. This will help lower your toddler frustration level.

Q: How can I prepare my toddler for a new baby?

A:  Tell your toddler about the new baby and answer her or his questions simply and honestly.

•Let your toddler feel the baby kicking and help him talk to the baby.
•Read books about babies and big brothers and sisters.
•Show your toddler his or her baby pictures and talk about what your toddler was like as a baby.
•Find a baby doll for your toddler to “parent.” Your toddler can change the diapers or cuddle the doll.
•Make any changes in your toddler’s life, such as moving out of a crib to a bed, changing rooms, or toilet learning, long before the birth, if possible.
•Talk to your toddler about what a baby does and needs. Your toddler may expect someone to play with, not someone who cries or sleeps most of the time. If possible, visit friends who have babies so your toddler can see for himself or herself

Q: I am afraid that my child will get spoiled if I don't spank him. How can I discipline her without spanking?

A: In order to discipline effectively, it is important to try to avoid overreacting by yelling or hitting. These might frighten the child into obedience in the short term, but will teach nothing in the long term. Parents teach discipline by example with loving guidance, natural and logical consequences, and talking with their child about their expectations. When parents discipline with respect, they elicit respect from their children.

Children basically want to please their parents when they feel loved and listened to. When your child misbehaves, parents need to examine the reasons that might have caused the misbehavior. There usually is a reason. It may be stress or major changes at home, hunger, a need for more quality attention, or overstimulation. Parents can learn to anticipate situations and plan ahead for example when planning a trip or going for shopping. This will reduce the chances of your losing temper or getting into difficult situations in the first place.


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